Can we talk about jealousy for a moment here? Do you ever feel jealous of others? It’s a normal human feeling and behavior. Next time you are feeling jealousy I encourage you to take a moment to reflect on it.
Why are you feeling jealousy?
What is it that person has, does, fill in the blank that makes you feel that way?
In true honesty, could you have that thing if you really wanted?
The reality is that many times we are comparing someone’s journey that is far past our own. For example, if they are a professional near you and they are doing all the things. You don’t know what they put into it to get there. You don’t know how many failed attempts happened, countless hours, education learned, money spent or how long they have been at it. Don’t compare your early journey to their experienced journey. You will get there one step at a time.
I recently heard a different perspective about jealousy that I think we can all appreciate. The perspective was that they used to think jealousy was bad. They went on to say, but really when they have those feelings, they remind themselves that the person they are jealous of is showing them what is possible. If they can do it, why can’t you? If that is really what you want, then get to it! They just showed you you can do it.
Lastly, if you have worked through all these points and yet you still don’t love how this person makes you feel it is best to unfollow, mute, or limit your time with them until you are at a point you feel differently. There is no reason to punish yourself and make yourself feel bad about it.